For fathers managing child single-handedly during the paternal break can be difficult. However there are a few important considerations which fathers should factor as they plan to get started.
1. At a high-level develop a plan for the period identifying plans and the milestones for progress towards getting your child more self-sufficient, typical day of a Latte Dad, resources needed to manage the day and to execute the plan. Few examples from my experience
- In our case, we aimed to get our child on day-long day care by the end of the 2.5 months with milestones for half-day and 2 hour-long day care identified
- Weekdays were primarily devoted to managing child but the weekends were kept relatively free to ensure I pursued other interests and chores
- Resources e.g., support from a maid at home to manage the child are critical for you to manage the period well
2. Given the high attention needed by the kids, days can look non-eventful and energy-consuming. Pursuing interests outside parenting can help you remain motivated, however be cautious of not defining hard targets for self. In my case, visits to coffee-shops, reading business magazines, and coding were regular part of the day. Additionally reading up on work topics and informal conversations with colleagues helps you remain connected to the workplace and makes transition back to work easier.
3. In absence of one stream of income (assuming you are on absence without pay), planning for your financials becomes critical. Given there is no change in the lifestyle, the expenses are likely to remain the same and hence you should plan your financials to manage the expenses during this period. Deferring discretionary high-value spending during and before the break can be one good way to manage financials for this phase
In case you have specific questions or feedback on these considerations, please feel free to add comments or write to me using the ‘Contact Me‘ page.
The intention of the note is to make customers aware of potential discrepancies in GoIbibo’s processes and systems which may affect the value of the ticket or refund resulting in incorrect charging. Unfortunately in absence of any grievance addressing channels handled by a non-customer service division, I have taken this channel to bring this incidence to the notice of customers, regulators (if any), and management.
I had booked a 2-leg itinerary for 2 passengers. Due to change in travel plans, I had requested for cancellation and rescheduling of the tickets. Cancellation / reschedule process broke at many points and had discrepancies due to which the following issues were observed:
- Only 1 leg of the ticket was cancelled against the two-legs for which the request was made. Reminder message from airlines [2 days before the travel date] helped me identify the issue
- 1st follow-up [2 days prior to the travel date] to cancel the ticket was inaccurately confirmed and acknowledged by CS agent but was not cancelled by the agent
- Upon receiving the check-in reminder from the airline [1 day before the travel date], I had to submit a 2nd follow-up request to cancel the ticket
- Leg 1 refund value was initially calculated as INR 192 by GoIbibo but later contested [nearly 30+ days later]
- 30 days later GoIbibo inaccurately calculated the refund value as INR -58 but after multiple email conversations / calls agreed to refund INR 192
- GoIbibo claims that INR -58 is the correct value and is now offering the refund of INR 192 only as a courtesy and INR 192 was calculated as a result on technical glitch
- In the refund calculation, GoIbibo seems to have excluded convenience fee of INR 250 which explains the difference between the two refund values calculated by GoIbibo
- Leg 2 refund value (INR 322) was inaccurately adjusted in the rescheduled ticket which resulted in overcharging of INR 100 to my credit card
- Detailed invoice provided by GoIbibo indicates the correct value to be charged to the card. However the payment system had inaccurately charged the card
- GoIbibo claims to be facing technical glitches due to which invoices are not updated or accurately generated
- Inaccuracies in refund calculations and charging to the customer indicates that these processes are possibly manual in nature and are not reliable. GoIbibo customers should be diligent about the invoicing and charging to avoid any inaccurate charging
- Priority customer service (CS) requests seem to have an aggressive Turn-around Time (TAT) and CS agents seem to rely on unbaked / quickly available information [which may be sometimes inaccurate] to address the query / request. Customers should request for additional information / request confirmation details whenever they suspect inaccuracies in the addressal by customer service
- Unfortunately customer service agents do not provide any details about grievance addressal and relevant regulatory addressal channels. Hence makes one believe that e-commerce industry is NOT regulated and is in dire need of regulations
If you have faced similar challenges / issues with GoIbibo, please share the same in the comments so that prospective customers, regulators (if any), and management is aware of such incidents.
2011 annual report for my blog
Here’s an excerpt:
A New York City subway train holds 1,200 people. My blog was viewed about 7,400 times in 2011. If it were a NYC subway train, it would take about 6 trips to carry that many people.
The big 5 of the year are –
Who Says Elephants Can’t Dance? (Review of a personal favorite book by McKinsey alumnus. A must read for management guys)
Google Docs as Database (Technical post on using Google Spreadsheet as a database)
Book Review – The Goal by Goldratt (A review of recommended book for operations personnel)
Book Review – Creation of Wealth CSR P (A school assignment turned into blog)
Marketing Myopia – The Cause of Low In (Marketing gyan from b-school days)
My personal favorites of the year Shit happens,let the buck stop and a poem With you I lived my sweetest part
Click here to see the complete report.
Wish you a very happy new year.
Two Fates Cover Page
Judy Balan’s debut novel “Two Fates – The story of my divorce” is an extension of the story of “Two States – The story of my marriage” by Chetan Bhagat. The plot is about separation of the couple (Deepika and Rishabh) who are like Yin and Yang, intrinsically different but complementary in nature. While the pair plots for their severance, their family unknowingly conspires against their divorce. Two Fates is story of these opposing forces, full of humour, sarcasm and some high schoolish turn of events.
Yin Yang Symbol
Judy narrates the story through the protagonist Deepika’s perspective and sticks to Aam-Janata syle of writing – use of plan language. Though the story is fun, Judy’s story is built around some very hard-core beliefs of the Indian society like inter-class or inter-religion marriages are social stigma, divorce decisions are not personal but family decisions, non-conventional form of vocation/studies/career like writing, vetenary doctor etc are not easily accepted by society. The author is also bold in presenting the sexual life of the couple in a very comic way.
The central characters of the novel might relate to many urban cosmopolitan citizens but the turn of events presented in the story like the baby making conspiracy by the families, the events related to the clandestine divorce, the union of the two inter-community families involved, the openness of the family to talk about sex etc are way-off from the life of a common man. The constantly-fighting-yet-loving-sort-of-relationship between Deepika and Rishabh is also expected to strike a chord with many couples.
Judy’s job of extending Chetan’s story line is remarkable as I believe extending someone else’s imagination is more difficult than creating a completely new plot. Hence, I think that the book is better than many other books belonging to modern literati genre. The book is a stand-alone success and does not require readers to have read “Two States”. The story is racy, dramatic and quick read (Should not take more than five hours to read).
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Buck Stops Here
This post is in response to a post by Fire Crystal about a girl’s right to career. This blog derives heavily from my personal experience, blogs & books I have read and songs to which I have lent my ears to.
Often many parents ignore the fact that “Ramming one’s point down the throat of another will NOT work no matter how correct the point might be.” The case of Ananya is a typical case of disagreement between a parent and a child where the parent is intolerant to the alternate choice of his child and is trying to enforce his view point onto the child without any (near-to-zilch) logical debate around the issue. More often than not, child in these cases tends to accept these enforced decisions with a caveat of passing the buck to their parents in case of the choice not materializing successfully. But siree, ain’t we fostering an environment wherein a child can easily prefer to be irresponsible?
Parents need to realize that “Individuals need to be themselves responsible for what happens to them. Merely passing the buck is irresponsibility.” Hence, let the child make choices and decisions which impact his/her life the most. Shit might happen but let the buck stop with your child.
Ananya’s dad needs to realize the above said statements. Based on the narration in the post, I deduce that no one has given much effort to convince Ananya’s dad on the matter. Ananya needs to take proactive efforts (probably making him talk to her teachers, the course administrators about the usefulness of the course etc). Moreover, Ananya should reflect the confidence that taking an alternate course will only enhance her chances of leading a better life. If her Dad is able to see such confidence in her, I think he would agree (but this might take time).
In case her Dad disagrees, let Ananya pursue the other course and let her try making a good living out of the other course. In either case, I would urge her to talk and to discuss her desires with her Dad more. Simply do not hold back your thoughts and desire and do not place your happiness in others’ hands. A few lines for Ananya to remember
Remember, There are no free lunches in life.No matter how much support you have from people around you, at the end of the day, you are going to be on your own. YOU are the one who has to live your life, and you are your own staunchest, most unswervingly loyal ally. No one is as concerned about your happiness as you.
P.S: I borrow a few lines from Savage Garden’s song Affirmation – “I believe your parents did the best job they knew how to do…… ” – There is no manual to parenting and parents always make decisions keeping the best interest of their child in mind. Their choices are half chances as everybody else’s and hence shit happens.
P.P.S: Some references made in the post belong to the following blogs and you might find these blogs/posts interesting:
Letter To A Classmate Who “Just Wants To Settle Down”
Interview of Indyeah by Blogadda
This post is in an extension to many posts and comments I have come across on religions recently. Many of the posts and comments have raised points around religion being used as a tool to discriminate and relevance of religion in today’s world. In this post, I would primarily try to present my view on religion’s relevance in the current world.
I think religions are loosing relevance in today’s world. Many bloggers have pointed out that religions today have outlived their use and have not evolved with the pace of the world.
One of the primary reason for this decline in relevance is that unfortunately religions have been too much about God and very less about human. Priests and preachers are too much in love with the traditions and rituals and worry less about the individuals. Theory says firms/institutions (in this context – religion) that focuses on firm’s/institution’s needs instead of it’s customers’ needs and wants (in this context – individuals) falter, fall and disappear.
Today very few religions offer counseling services around fighting stress, coping with pains, practical insights into leading good life. Even if they offer, these are still very naive and built around traditions and rituals and offer no solace to the individual concerned. An example to cite here: catholic churches in south India appealed to Christian couples to have more children (News Article – Catholic church says to have more children). Unfortunately this advice/appeal was issued keeping dwindling Christian population’s impact on Christianity in mind rather than the common good of individuals in mind. The above example indicates the focus of religious institutions – power, traditions and rituals above the common good of individuals involved. This love of religious institutions with traditions, rituals and power makes religions irrelevant to many youths.
So, does that mean religions would perish from the surface of the earth? NO. As religions represent way of life (often with a lagged effect), religious institutions will alter themselves slowly. Though a universal religion might be a very distant dream, I hope religious affiliations will no longer be used to discriminate individuals. For the common good of human being, religion would become a part of private life and would stay away from public life. AMEN.
P.S: I have read through many blogs and opinions of individuals on religion. Some of them which the readers of this blog might find interesting are presented below:
“Civilization made god out of good people (mostly philosophers/social workers) who gave a direction to society may be laid a few pointers to lead life with respect to their structure and situation of the society… Somewhere down these paths people lost the view that these are just ways to live and all is made by humans for humans to live like humans …” – Sumit Mukherjee, a close pal of mine
Read what IHM has to say about religion in her blog Religion Makes Us Kind and Good!?
Read why Tikuli prefers to believe in GOOD than GOD in her post Walk the talk – Temple Tales
Read Indyeah’s view on religion in her interview with Blogadda
A hundred days have passed since I had a contended heart,
With you I lived my sweetest part.
Today, dreams are my favorite place,
where I see myself closer to your face.
The pain does not die and I motionlessly cry,
for being away from thy.
Often I desire to mend my past,
and pray to set things right.
But nothing seems to change
And I realize – this part is the heaviest baggage.
With you I lived my sweetest part….
Prime Minister of India addressing the public from ramparts of Red Fort
Prime Minister of India addressing the country from Red Fort
Prime Minister of India on ramparts on Red Fort
If I were to display the above three pictures a few years ago and ask you to pen down a few top of mind words, ‘authority’, ‘power’, ‘big’, ‘colossal’ and similar words would make it to the list (Authority might not figure in the list, if I were to do the test today). Red Fort has been symbolic of authority and power since the time it was constructed.
The place still retains the aura of stateliness, it commanded in the period of Mughal Empire. Here a few pics from recent visit to the colossal monument in Old Delhi.
Bombay Duck is a Fish Cover Page
Kanika Dhillon’s debut novel “Bombay Duck is a fish” is partly an autobiographical book on career in film-making. Fast paced novel set in the tinsel town of India – Mumbai – is about dreams and ambition of the film city.
The protagonist of the story “Neki Brar” chucks a cushy corporate job to follow her dream to become a film-maker alike the author of the book. Young ambitious Neki successfully lands in the Assistant Director role to a famous director Fiza but soon discovers the darker side of the film-making. Cruelties of the city and of the profession soon teach her the act of survival and she adopts to the bollywood’s way of moving up the ladder. However, her entanglement with second lead actor, Ranvir, of Fiza’s movie unfolds ugliness of true love, which brings destruction to her life. Kanika cites in the book “Test of true love is to ask oneself if one would happily be destroyed by the other person. If the answer is yes, it’s true love.” Neki’s love for Ranvir destroys her.
Kanika tells the story via filings of Neki in her diary “Nano” in a fashion similar to Annie Frank’s narration via a diary “Kitty” in “Diary of a Young Girl”. The timeframe of the story is less than a year and sometimes the reader might find the pace of the story to be unrealistic. Kanika has effectively used humor in the story and has christened the chapters creatively. The title of the novel derives its name from one of the chapters of the novel where Neki realizes that “Bombay Duck” is a misnomer and “Bombay Duck” is actually a fish. The interspersed allusion to Freudian theories and quotes from novel “Siddhartha” by Hermann Hesse makes the reading interesting.
Character of Neki is etched well and in parts seems to be heavily drawn from the real life of Kanika who also started out working as an assistant director in bollywood. The characters in the story are young and ambitious and the racy life of the characters presented in the story might connect with many bollywood aspirants. Kanika has been honest to writing and has presented charcters like Aslam, Minty and Ranvir giving a peek into the dark side of film-making.
Language of the book is plain. It sometimes throws film-making jargons like AD (Assistant Director), Vanity Van, location recce etc. but does not really interfere with the reading. One must not read this book for wellspring of information on movie making but for the narration. The book is fast-paced and a seven to eight hour read. The plot is bereft of surprise elements and is predictable; unfortunately the end of the story is a let down.
My verdict – Thumbs Up for narration and recommended for light readers. Must read for bollywood aspirants. A three of out of five to Kanika for the work.
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